Modern Civility: Manners for Illness, Injury, and Surgery

Adam and I watched the season premier of Downton Abbey last night, and got into several heated debates about the lifestyle of the Crawley family. One thing we could agree on is that the thing missing most from the modern world is civility  Facebook and Twitter have single-handedly stripped us of our connection to each other. Instead of listening to what is going on with the people we care about, we spend our days projecting ourselves (kind of like I’m doing now, I’ll admit) and we lose out on that millennia-old necessity of human interaction.

So I thought I would do a mini-series on manners, since most people just don’t know any better. This can be your weekly reminder to do something nice for someone in your life, and to put some good karma out there in the universe.

Since I just had surgery, I thought I would start with the general illness category: What should you do if a friend or family member is sick, injured or having surgery?

 jen darling by j.k.h. nelsonOption 1: Cell Phone. Everyone has a cell phone and everyone (except my father) has text messaging. It takes all of 3 seconds to send one, and it’s a surefire way to brighten up any ill person’s day. If you want to call and chat for a few minutes, a text first doesn’t hurt. You don’t know how he or she is feeling, and it may be too much to chat on the phone.

Option 2: eCard  or Snail Mail. I love SomeEcards because they are fun, witty, and super simple to send. Humor always helps people feel better.

If you’d prefer to send some snail mail, this Hallmark card is perfect for any type of not feeling well. The inside reads:

I don’t think this is what your doctor meant by “Drink plenty of fluids.”
But if you’re up for it, then so am I.

Now you just have to hope that your ill friend has someone to collect their mail if they are not able to do it themselves.


Option 3: Care Package. This can come in the form of flowers, an edible arrangement, or a box with the person’s favorite things. If you know what illness he or she has, cold lozenges or cough syrup is also appreciated.

jen darling by j.k.h. nelson jen darling by j.k.h. nelson

While you certainly don’t have to go all out every time, it’s the thought that counts. One of my goals this year is to inject more civility into everyday life, and show the people around me that I do care about them.

What do you think is the best way to send some love to someone who is sick or recovering?

{I love this SomeEcards, the back story for my injury is pretty good. No, I’m not telling.}

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